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Male readers were asked what qualities make a woman instantly attractive to them. Some responses are surprising! Here's what they had to say:
1. Sense of humor
“Being naturally funny to the point of doing just one riff and the two burst out laughing. I met a girl in my life who constantly made me die so I invited her to the bar since all of our mutual friends were hanging out. We spent the whole night cracking jokes and trolling the men who approached her."
Man, I never wanted to put a ring on someone's finger faster, I swear."
2. Be passionate about something
“I love it when a girl starts expressing her thoughts on a favorite subject. Seeing the emotion behind her eyes and the increased excitement is great!”
3. Chat actively
“As long as they listen to the conversation and contribute. It's about waiting your turn to speak and then listening adds to the conversation. You should never be left waiting to speak, listening and understanding someone else's point of view is important to me."
"I completely agree with you. Active listening is a rare quality, and in most cases people just wait their turn to speak.”
"If she's receptive and interested in conversation, that's the best."
4. Trust
“Confidence trumps everything for me. Some women only have onepresencewhen they enter a room that demands attention and is so inviting. You know that before you even get a good look at them."
"I'm a fool if a girl doesn't have a touch of shyness."
“I was at a college event where a girl I had spoken to briefly approached me and started teasing/treating me like we had known each other for years.
Even a blind person could see that she was attracted to me, but the audacity and eye contact with her won me over instantly.”
5. A good heart
“Have a good heart. Building people up instead of tearing them down."
6. Visual contact
“A beautiful redhead made eye contact with me on the street in San Francisco in 1990 while I was in town for a bike race. We were walking past each other and she held my gaze the whole time and I felt like lightning had gone through me."
7. Your personality
“I'm 53 and have dated quite a bit over the years (now established). I'll be honest, there was nothing connecting them all. Some were her appearance, some her figure or whatever made me think "Egads, I'll give it a try, the worst they can do is say no."But after that initial encounter, it's all about personality. Seems to fade with age, but someone who can make your day better and make you laugh is a keeper."
“That includes confidence, self-esteem, intelligence, and kindness. I have known beautiful women who were unattractive due to personality issues. Also, I met women whose personalities made them attractive.”
“It's personality for me and trumps everything else. Appearances are great, but I've met a lot of women who are labeled beautiful by society but are terrible to be around. I believe that beauty starts with personality and that it will always be the determining factor for attractiveness and friendship."
8. Vulnerability
“People are so private and closed off that being able to have an open and genuine interaction with someone who is willing to share who they really are is tremendously attractive. That's what made me fall in love with my wife so quickly, she was so vulnerable and authentic from the start that I couldn't help but fall in love with her."
9. Intelligence
“Like, like instant attraction, at first glance, yes, it's going to be physical features like legs, eyes, etc., but far beyond that, your intelligence, ability to have an interesting conversation, and knowledge of the world (politics, history, etc.) .) are the things that keep me and keep me continually interested.”
10. Wear yoga pants
"Only 5% of women who wore yoga pants actually practice yoga... and 100% of men don't care."
"Yoga pants are my kryptonite."
11. Down to Earth
"When she's down to earth and not mean for no reason."
"Attitude. And I don't mean 'have an attitude'. Just have confidence in yourself. The 'I'm good-looking' look is depressing. Being able to look a guy in the eye and talk coherently is sexy as hell.
Yes, a nice ass or a nice pair is the first thing we see, but it will only get you so far. I completely ignored a fool 10 to talk to a girl some would consider 'plain' because she could carry on an intelligent conversation and had a good sense of humour."
12. Her hair
“Well-groomed hair of any variety immediately appeals to anyone, regardless of gender. It shows me that you take your appearance seriously and have a personal sense of style.”
13. Your smile
"I think smiling makes all girls more approachable and attractive."
“People are much more attractive when they smile, regardless of how crooked their teeth are. Seeing a girl smile makes me smile too!"
“a good smile Seriously. I fell in love the first time I saw my wife smile and I swore I would do anything to see that smile every day. Thirty years later, her smile still melts me.“
14. In good physical shape
“A girl who works out. I'm also a fan of pretty legs.”
"A fit body and physical appearance that says they have good hygiene."
"A girl who goes to the gym doesn't need to have the perfect body, something about working out at the gym is more attractive than the body itself."
15. Women who have hobbies
It's kind of crazy how many people literally have no hobbies other than drinking, going out, and being on their phone. When people have interests they're passionate about or skills they're trying to improve, it's very attractive to me.
16. She's funny
“Being fun to be around. Outgoing and with a sense of humor. Personality trumps looks any day of the week.
“I am attracted to women who are less beautiful than other women just because they are fun and friendly.”
“Beautiful face, hygiene, curvy figure, nice clothes, the most important thing is to have a friendly and extroverted personality. I've been attracted to women who were less beautiful than other women just because they were funny and friendly."
17. See yourself happy
“Genuine happiness. That alone puts your leagues above most in my eyes. With a good eye, you can spot it right away.
“Have a great attitude.”
“Positive view of life”.
18. She knows more than one language
The ability to speak multiple languages.
19. That she is attracted to him
“For a long time I was looking for a girlfriend to eventually become my wife. But nobody looked back. So one did so I decided to continue the relationship. I've already been married to a goddess with curly hair for 15 years.”
“For me, what turns me on the most is knowing that a woman is interested in me, so a girl who can communicate that without playing games and making me think is especially attractive. Second, I would say that if a guy knows you have a crush on him, HIS confidence and therefore attractiveness will likely only increase as well.
“Remarkable attraction for me. I immediately notice all the features I didn't have before, it's like people are transformed."
"I always said the reason I fell in love with my wife was the way she looked at me when she saw me."
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Responses were selected fromReddit.
20. Ella is sexy
Of course being pretty is on the list!
“A really pretty face and a pretty smile. After that, a confident woman is very attractive."
“Having a pretty face attracts me. Beautiful eyes attract me. But if you have those attributes and you're not a good person, I can walk away and not look back."
“Even though I notice other physical attributes first, the face is what makes or breaks it. If she has a pretty face, I can overlook many things.
"Attitude, pretty face, being bilingual is an asset that makes her incredibly attractive to me."